Rules for Fair Fighting
In my Coaching and Psychotherapy work with individuals, couples, families, and business partners I've found a few simple & effective tools for de-escalating an argument and resolving conflict as tensions rise. People often seek coaching or therapy once they've found themselves in repeated unhealthy or non-productive patterns with significant others. This can become a frustrating and seemingly hopeless situation without the intervention of a helper or the resources needed to get out of the mire. We can all attest to the fact that feeling stuck stinks. Try these simple tips to aerate and refreshen the way you debate. 1. Use "I" messages instead of "You" messages. Recognize how conflict affects you. Give your feelings words. Unless your partner is clairvoyant, there is no way for him/her...
