When you talk about your ex too soon into a relationship — especially if the past relationship recently ended — it might make your new partner think you haven’t moved on. “Don’t talk about your ex,” psychotherapist Heather Edwards, LMHC, BCCtells Bustle. “It shows that your focus is on your past rather than your future. How can you move forward when you’re looking in the rearview mirror? It brings another person into your new relationship and thus creates a triangle.” Rather than starting off on that foot, open the discussion around exes later when there is something valuable that can be learned from it.

You might want to stay away from complaining about your family or friends too soon. “New relationships are built on the energy you bring to them from the start,” says Edwards. And if that energy is continually negative, that might start to be your new partner’s perception of you. “Shift your mindset,” Edwards says. “It’s better to focus on strengths, gratitude, and being present in the moment.”

Avoid discussing a specific timeline on when you want to be married right at the beginning of the relationship. “Saying something like, ‘Down the road, I can see myself being married with kids,’ is fine, but to say, ‘In two years I want to be married with a kid on the way,’ can … put pressure on your partner and make them feel like you are rushing things,” says Viciere. “Using ‘down the road’ is fine because, the person you are dating may say they don’t want children or perhaps don’t even want to get married. Those are aspects that are important to know early on, so both parties do not waste their time.”

It’s important in your relationship that you share the little details of your life with your partner, but, that doesn’t have to happen right away. “You should let your significant other into parts of your life gradually, just like you would a new friend,” therapist Rachel Gersten, LMHC, CHC tells Bustle. “As exciting as the closeness and intimacy of a new relationship is, your new significant other shouldn’t immediately be your sounding board for everything going on in your life.”

How much money you make or money problems should be left for later on in the relationship. “Try to avoid any discussion of money,” says Viciere. “The person you’re dating may be concerned that you cannot handle your finances, or they may worry that they don’t make enough money to be on the same level as you.” Since money can be a huge source of relationship stress, it’s best to leave these issues for when things are more solid between the two of you.

Gossiping can be seen as another way of focusing on the negative and may not be the energy you want to bring into the relationship early on. “Share your ideas and dreams,” says Edwards. “This is your opportunity to construct the foundation of a relationship the way you want it to be. Stay focused on the positive and forward momentum.”

“Similar to future marriage plans, early on in a relationship probably isn’t the best time to talk about your potential future children,” says Gersten. “Having kids is a very personal decision, and although it’s a good idea to make sure you’re generally on the same page before jumping into a serious relationship, discussing your preferred preschool is a little too premature. Those are decisions that should be made together as they come up, rather than it becoming a discussion years in advance.”

These topics are important, but they’re better off discussed a little further down the road, rather than early on.