Can EMDR Help You Find Love?

Imagine this. You want love, but intimacy is dangerous. You want connection, but closeness feels cringey. You want a life partner & soul mate, but you can trust no one. Can EMDR help you find love?

Forget about the limited dating pool, your trauma is limiting the odds of finding love before even saying, “Hello.“.

Here’s how trauma can affect love and relationships:

Abuse, neglect, bullying, perfectionism and overachieving can all be a cause or symptom of trauma. When trauma happens whether physical, emotional, or sexual, it sends your central nervous system into overdrive. 

This survival function keeps your safe. Thank your body for that! But, when it remains elevated, even when safe, outside your window of tolerance, you feel jittery, stressed, anxious, or sleepy.

If you are constantly on guard, defended and mistrusting, intimate relationships will remain elusive. Finding love after trauma will be a challenge.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Here’s how EMDR can help you find love:

Using bilateral stimulation such as eye movements, tapping, or sounds, you can rewire your brain. Your natural innate processes for identifying safety versus danger reset to a healthy baseline. As your central nervous system calms, your body can relearn how to relate to others across a variety of situations. 

EMDR supports the movement of highly charged emotional memories from your amygdala to your prefrontal cortex. This effectively reduces associated emotions and enables you to make decisions based on the current reality, rather than old beliefs and experiences. 

Without intense emotions like fear, anger, or powerlessness getting in your way, you are free to live your life.

You can feel open to meeting new people at your discretion, on your terms, with ease and confidence – aka without baggage from the past.

EMDR can help you find love. Sound too good to be true?

I get it. Astounded and inspired by the courage and transformation I witness in my office, I feel grateful everyday. The unique journey each EMDR client travels, forever changes and improves their quality of life.

The deep change is effervescent and sometimes shocking to me and the client. Even though it appears to be magical, it’s not, it’s neuroscience and psychology. It’s within reach. It’s proven by science.