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Confidence Coaching – Empowering You

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Confidence Coaching – Empowering You


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Who hasn’t experienced a knot in the stomach, a lightheaded feeling, or tunnel vision in the moments before a performance, important meeting, or unfamiliar situation? Nobody!  Whether you’re giving a talk, playing a song, or simply networking – stage fright is a very real thing.  Self confidence is at risk.

 It is stifling to believe you didn’t measure up or worse, you let someone down.  It can stop you from stretching to new heights and leave you longing for your safe zone – which might prompt a counterproductive step back to avoid the new challenge.

Create your intention.  Recall moments you felt fully competent.  Tap into that feeling emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and viscerally.  Allow your consciousness to absorb all those positive thoughts, feelings, and sensations.  Cumulatively, they affect your body’s chemistry in a positive way, and make it easier to stay positive and feel confident.

When negative thoughts are allowed to take over, the result is a sense of failure, defeat, and low self worth.  A stress reaction is triggered.  Here’s what happens – our sympathetic nervous system reacts automatically to a perceived threat, whether that threat is physical or emotional.  Our heart rate increases, pupils dilate, and adrenaline is activated.  Your body is in a state of alarm.

Sound familiar?  This is stress.  This is anxiety.  It’s also normal and natural.  If what you want is empowerment, then get comfortable with the uncomfortable. Without risk, nothing changes.  Reframe that unproductive self talk and identify the belief system creating the domino effect.  If its true that what you focus on is what you feel, then shift your focus.

Define who you are and where you’re going. Be in tune with your true self.  Attract new people and opportunities into your life with a self love and assuredness that may not have existed previously.  It is liberating and exciting.  Welcome insecurity and uncertainty.  They are necessary components of change and personal development.

Soothe that inner awkward version of yourself with your hard-earned wisdom. Embrace the collective knowledge and skills you’ve developed through experience.  Allow yourself to speak kindly and enthusiastically to your unsure self.   Own your dreams and aspirations. Acknowledge and release the stifling fear.  Believe you are good enough.  Breathe.


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Reassure yourself. Tap into your vision of your best self, or a trusted role model or mentor. Notice the behaviors & qualities that make that person or version of yourself valuable to you. Learn from them.

Remember that people in your audience today aren’t familiar with that awkward self who’s crying out for comfort.  What they know is what you present here and now, in this room, in this moment. Be mindful.  Every action you take now is a fresh start toward creating the empowered person you intend to be and want to project.

Notice YOUR strengths. Define YOUR values. Be PRESENT. Acknowledge your BLIND SPOTS.  Celebrate your WINS and VICTORIES everyday.  Take time to NOURISH yourself morning and night.

CHANGE in one small way this week.  Discover a new way to interact with your world. One that expresses and invites gratitude, generosity, and abundance. Notice the increased optimism and positivity it attracts.  This is a place where you can feel confident about being you and create the life you want.

Heather Edwards, LMHC, BCC

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